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Happiness Habits

If you want to find happiness, find gratitude.
– Steve Marboli

Hello friends.

What are your happiness habits?

A few years ago I probably would have rolled my eyes at someone if they asked me that question.  But the more I study the people who have created great lives for themselves, I realize that they all do what I call happiness habits.

Mimi and Alex Ikonn, Tony Robbins, Oprah, Marie Forleo… They all start their day with gratitude.  They are also immensely successful.  Is this a coincidence?  I don’t think so.

The thing is, especially if you live in the Western world, we are so fortunate.  We have big homes, beds, tooth brushes, heating, ample food, money, and clothing.  Even the poor are rich compared to the homeless in other countries.  But we complain a lot.  Most people I know complain all day – myself included (working on this BTW).  Most people do not take any time to be grateful, to feel the gratitude inside them for all that we have.

I decided to create a daily practice to state 10 things I am grateful for in the morning and before I go to sleep.  I also ask my husband three things he is grateful for every day and we share these together.  This way we reflect together on how fortunate we are.  Its a nice change to focus on the positive especially when we live in a world that is focused on the negative.

If you do not have a practice of gratitude, I suggest you start one.  See how you change your perspective of the world.

Thanks for reading.

Jacqueline

Uncategorized · weight loss

Setting myself free

This morning I stepped on the scale for the first time in a long time and it read 197.

197.

Normally I would have freaked out to see this number.  I would have cried.  Not today.

I have been telling myself a story this year that lead to this.  I need to rest, I need to take care of my mental health first, I need more sleep, I have been eating right, I don’t have time…

Truth is, exercise is the self-love I need.  Eating right is the self-love I need.  Motivation is the self-love I need.

I have been judging other people trying to make myself feel better.  That person is bigger than me, I must be healthier than them.  Did you see what she ate?  No wonder she’s the size she is…  Things like this.  Every.single.day.

Or the opposite.  I will never look like her, no matter how hard I work I will never look like that, I will never, I will never…so why try?

This self-deprecating behaviour is exhausting and I am truly done.  It’s time to work on true self-love, true-self care and no more comparison, because no one else is me.

I realized that I created my identity around my weight.  I was always the chubby one.  My weight was commented on since I was a child.  I would never be small, I was big boned, I was just a big girl.  I would lose weight every few years, then gain it all back within months.  I started to set myself goals – I will lose “x” pounds by June, I will do this I will finally wear a bathing suit this year.  Then I would proceed to tell myself a story about how I have stretch marks everywhere, so I will never wear a bathing suit anyway, so why try.  I’ll always have cellulite, so why try.

This is the end of those excuses because I am greater than them.  Today I am committing myself to the greatness I can be and I will stop carrying around all this extra weight – this extra hate.

I will be chronicling my journey here.

Thanks for reading.

Jacqueline