This may come out as word vomit, but I have been pondering a topic ever since I found the documentaries on nuns I spoke about last time. It has taken me this long to write, so bear with me.
Something annoyed me when watching these documentaries – the comments.
Now I know that we live in a world where everyone is spewing out their thoughts and feelings all over the place. We now know how all our neighbours feel about Trump, gay rights, and we all know what we ate for dinner. So it shouldn’t have annoyed me as much as it did, but I have been annoyed for weeks.
Most of the comments went something like this: “their beliefs are stupid”, “they should be doing more with their lives instead of sitting inside praying all day”, or “they are wasting their lives”.
You catch the drift.
But the thing is – does it really matter what these nuns are doing? The solitude, the prayer and communion with their god? People have been doing this for thousands of years or more. Many some people may have thought it was stupid even then, thousands of years ago, but I suppose we didn’t have the internet to tell us so.
We as a society, especially in the Western world, have been taught a set of beliefs that we are to live our lives by. We all know them. But these ladies aren’t getting married, aren’t having children. They are praying. They are taking care of each other. They are learning about themselves and about the god they took vows to serve.
But we need to look at the bigger picture – this isn’t just about the nuns. It’s about conforming to the standard mould we have been given. Why are we as a culture so concerned about the lives of others? I am not saying I am blameless. I have definitely shared my opinions on things others were doing that I believed to be stupid or useless. But is anything useless? If you receive a calling in life, why not take it? Why not use every bit of your energy to work on that thing?
Most of the humans I know are unhappy because they believe they need to be doing the opposite of what brings them joy. And they then point out all the things wrong with the people doing things they love. Lack of money, specifically.
In my opinion, these women – these nuns, they are brave. They have stripped themselves from all possessions, from all pacifiers. They sit in prayer and contemplation for hours every day. They probably have seen the darkest places of their souls. They can be who they are. No makeup, no frills, no outside rules of conformity.
Perhaps we are to take a lesson from them. Let’s strip away the superfluous in our lives and decide to live the life we want. To play by our own rules. To stop letting these invisible guidelines dictate who we are. No one is you, no one can live your life for you.
And to those who leave silly comments on nun documentaries, maybe you could be doing better things with your time. 😉
Thanks for reading.